"It is a lovely thing to have a husband and a wife developing together and having the feeling of falling in love again. That is what marriage really means. Helping one another to reach the full status of being persons,
responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life.
~Paul Tournier (1898 - 1986)~
To me, premarital counseling is not done to drudge up all of the things that are possibly "ugly". It is not to "solve all of your problems". To me, premarital counseling provides you and your fiance the opportunity to get to know yourselves and the other at a deeper and more meaningful level. It provides the opportunity to enhance awareness and personal growth.
I encourage you to explore getting to "really" know the person you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
Isn't this more important than picking out cake? One would think...